First Love Experience. When is the right time to start?

Every girl experiences this moment in her life, when she realises that: "This is it. The time has come to lose virginity and experience the first intimacy with a guy." It is scary to cross this line, but life has its own mysterious ways.

The question: "When is the right time to start?" is good to answer first. Unfortunately it is an impossible task to do. Even different sources, disagree in their opinions on this matter. For example, the law says that sex with a minor (even one gives the agreement) is considered the most serious crime.

Doctors (sexologists, gynaecologists) consider a girl, who has reached her puberty (age 14-15 years), able to have a sex life. Psychologists on the other hand say that her inner self hasn't yet been developed enough to take this step, and the early start could reflect tragically on her mental health.

In real life most of the girls lose their virginity at the age of 16. Though there are some that manage to do it already at 13, and others " keep it safe" until they are 20.

" Don't judge me without a reason." Lets not condemn anyone - just discuss this important mater. It has been noticed that the earlier a girl starts, the less nice the experiences, and more not so nice ones, she gains during her "first time".

A painful, unhappy, traumatic start can seriously damage future intimacy. There are many women, who have seeked help with sexologists, psychotherapists and psychoanalytics, with only one request - to help them get rid of the awful memories and even the consequences of their first sexual experience.

" Dreams, dreams, where is your sweetness?. "Any girl, woman imagines her "first time" to be beautiful, romantic etc. Sharing the moment with a sensitive, loving and loved person.

You can fantasize on this subject forever: "How it should have been?." But let's instead talk about, how it definitely should not be.

There is no point in heading for your "first time" only because all your girlfriends have done it, and you still haven't. You also shouldn't give in to the persuasions of a young man, if you are afraid or you don't feel ready. And of course, definitely not when he threatens to dump you, if you don't sleep with him. Lets be honest! "He will dump you anyway!" More likely after getting what he wants.

You should also avoid "bargaining" with your chastity: "If you marry me, I'll agree!" Even if your partner promises to do so, he might change his mind afterwards.

The "first time" shouldn't happen in a hurry, with a constant fear of someone walking into the room - friends, parents or other intruders. You also shouldn't do it under the effect of alcohol with a drunken partner. Never ever seek for intimacy with a guy when being upset, jealous or hurt and wanting to revenge someone.

"And I thought."One more advice: never expect too much from your "first time". Very often those of you, who have read love novels, dream about "overwhelming passion and sweet waves of pleasure". And in the end you rise from the bed deeply disappointed and even insulted.

What can you do? Sometimes the "first time" and the first orgasm are separated by years. However, there is nothing to be afraid of. Rumours about pain and great bleeding during the act are very exaggerated.